Before I had kids I swore black and blue that my kids wouldn't ever use dummies... and this is how it went....
Baby 1: Bad colic. Comfort booby sucker. In order to save my boobs for future babies I gave in at 5wks old and she took to it like a pro. By 8-9mths is was just a sleeping aid. I took it away 'cold turkey' style when she reached her first birthday because she started chucking it out of the cot during the night and I wasn't interested in losing sleep for that reason! Two days of screaming and all was right in the world.
Baby 2: Reflux. Feeding issues. Medications. Was told to give her a dummy and it helped a lot pretty much from day 1. By 8-9mths it has been just a sleeping aid. I have done things differently this time by tying a cotton muslin square to the dummy so it is easier for her to find during the night. I also keep 2-3 dummies in the cot during the night. I have NEVER gone to put the dummy in for her and she is almost 11mths. And I'm not sure when we will take it off her... probably around her 1st birthday.
Do I care that some people think they are brilliant because they haven't used dummies? No. Hats off to them if it makes them feel special.
Do I think that it makes me a bad Mum? Pff... I'm a fantastic Mum!
In the grand scheme of things... it doesn't matter!
I hardly think my girls will come to me as young adults and say... "Mum, if only you hadn't of used dummies..."